Holy gumballs! This is officially my 100th post 
Woot wooty woot! (what in Thorās name does that even mean?). Anyways, moving onā¦
What started as āCoach T.I.A ā Take Inspired Action!ā In April 2009, butterflied into Your Life YOUR Way in October 2010. The new branding was born.
A few days ago, the process was completed as I moved from coachtia.com to yourlifeyourway.net (yep, peekaboo above!). Not without some adventure!
In the last 10 days, my website got suspended for 2 days, I lost a weekās worth of emails and all the āFB likesā and ātweetsā on 98 posts disappeared. All. Gone. Eaten by the interweb gremlins.
That was a little upsetting since some posts that I was really proud of had been shared about a 100 times. I also lost track of the #reverb10 prompts. Mercury retrogade anyone?
Thinking about this made me realise just how attached I can get to external signs of validation so on that note, Iām going back to Dec 11th, when my website dramas started, and answering the prompt:
December 11 ā 11 Things What are 11 things your life doesnāt need in 2011? How will you go about eliminating them? How will getting rid of these 11 things change your life? (Author: Sam Davidson)
Hmm lotsa 1111ās there for you numerology geeks
- Being Tired / Low Energy State. This has been the theme for many years, often tired, sleepy, low on energy. Tiredness is a state of mind and a crutch, so goodbye. In 2011, I choose energy.
- Confusion. I spent all year talking about how confused I was about what direction to take my business. Guess what happened? 9 months of not knowing. The way out of confusion is to stop talking confusion. So in 2011, I speak words of clarity and focus. How crystal clear it is!
- Fear / Resistance / Excuses. Ahhhhhhh! I took many brave little steps, some big ones and yet, I felt like I held back this entire year. I canāt and wonāt regret it cos fear is a great teacher, and Iāll just say, 2011 is about fearless action in the face of fear.
- Distraction via email, social media. I suspect a big part of the confusion and fear this year is thanks to my incessant, obsessive clicking of the refresh button on facebook, twitter, email etc. Iām at a point where I have some great relationships and people in my life, and nurturing them is a function of intention, not obsession. 2011 is about setting structures and processes in place for communication, connection, creation and consumption.
- Negative self talk. Although I was very aware and conscious of my words, thoughts and actions and made huge headway in 2010, Iām letting go of this in a bigger way. 2011 is about loving myself and believing in myself to the nth degree. Whatever it takes.
- # fixations. Since I moved my website, my Alexa rankings start from 20million again. I know it takes 3 months for the average to be calculated so I wonāt check it every day ā March should be just fine. This will help me focus on creation and value instead of validatory (did I just make that word up!?) ego boosts.
- 50% of the 25% thatās left of my wardrobe since the big cull of 2010. Already did this and seeing my life packed into 8 boxes, one of which is my cherished books and one of clothes, has freed me up mentally, physically and emotionally. In 2011 I shall continue the lightness of being!
- Information products. I just bought my last one for a year (damn you Naomi & Dave!). I havenāt counted yet but Iāve probably spent a few thousands in info products and events this year. Leaving behind this addiction and fear (of missing out on something) will allow me to create more than I consume. Looking forward to it :).
- Apathy. Amidst the passion, thereās been a lot of āI donāt careā and Iām smart enough to see it comes from overwhelm. Thatās gone, so sister A can take a hike as well. What will this give me? Tia unleashed!
- Running. Running from responsibility and commitment (words that gnaw at me like a rat in a sewer). Redefining them to mean: responding to my heartās desire (response-ability) & deciding to live a 150% life (commit-meant). Delighting in each day I experience the beauty and joys of being alive. Standing still, listening to my heart speak.
- Playing Small. By this I donāt mean financially or business āgrowthlyā. I mean acting as if what I have to say isnāt as important cos others are saying it too, or saying it louder and better than me. Itās about playing to my gallery, playing to myself, my strengths, my gifts, my purpose.
It means owning & living my way, MY way.
I welcome 2011 in all its glory. Iām always excited to start a new year and this time, even more so as I let go of 2010 with fondness and delight, and usher in 12 months of a fantastic, phenomenal new life.
I am here, watch me leap.
What are some things YOU donāt need in your life in 2011? What are you letting go of in the new year? Looking forward to hearing your thoughts! Thanks for being here & sharing!
Iām letting go of the need to identify with a vocation that no longer challenges me (oops, already gone); the fear of failing in a new business; and the responsibility for other peopleās lives.
No one is singing your song exactly like you, Tia. I like your tune. If I could ālikeā this page 100 times, I would
Hahaha that last bit just made me giggle Lach!
1) Thank you for saying that <3
2) I love how easily I confess and own my obsessions, big hugs to me
Your picks are pretty damn awesome. And hugely powerful. I suspect your life has already changed a ton and now itās about to get a 100 times more fantastical as you just made a loud, public declaration that the whole world heard. YES!!
Powerful list. Youāre going to have an incredible year.
Thanks Alana! Whatās on yours?
Tia, hereās my list
http://lifeafterbenjamin.wordpress.com/2010/12/11/11-things/
Hey we have 5 in common. I count comparison as part of my #ās fixation
Thanks for sharing Alana, hereās to freedom from these debbie downers in 2011, yippeekiyay!
Tia, you have magic powers. You waved your post at me and turned me into a bobble-head doll. I was nodding the whole way through.
Tired. Check
Confused. Check
Fear/resistance. Check
Distractions. Check
Negative self talk. Check
# fixations. Double check
Information products. Check
Apathy. Check
Running. Check
Playing small. Check
Been THERE, done (and some still doing) all of THAT. Youāll notice the only one I didnāt check was the getting rid of my wardrobe and thatās only because my weight gain did that for me. I can only wear a tiny percent of what I own, so I gave 3/4 of it all away a year ago. My closet is VERY clean. Woo hoo.
What I find really amazing, and for meāempoweringāabout this post is how much it surprised me. I discovered your Coach Tia blog in May-ish I think, through Jeannetteās blog, and I perceived you as a DYNAMITE, ULTRA-CONFIDENT, totally FOCUSED, POWERFUL woman. That perception hasnāt shifted as Iāve followed your work more closely in the last couple months. The reason I love this is because it reminds me that the way we see ourselves is so not who we are. So I not only applaud you for leaving these things behind, Iām with you on each and every one of them.
Iām also tickled because on my rainy forest walk with Ducky this morning, I was thinking about our upcoming conversation and how I wanted to talk to you about my need for āvalidationā and being recognized, and here you are talking about it. How fun is that??
And one more thing before I stop. When your site was down, I was aware of it because Iād been trying to get to it to watch one of your Skype interviews. When I saw it was gone, I immediately hooked into how you were feeling. Iād just experienced something similar in September. I spent 2 solid weeks building Up From Splat, and a FTP transfer glitch deleted the whole thing. All my stylesheet changes and postsāeverything. I had to start over from scratch. When I started to hook into what I knew must be your frustration and whatever else you were feeling, I realized that wouldnāt help you. So I immediately shifted to a vibe of āwhatās in it for her?ā So Iām happy to hear that itās brought you some ahas and clarity!
Keep on fizzing.
What do I love about your comment Ande? Everything.
Especially the part about how we see ourselves is not who we really are. Often, itās easier for OTHERS to see our true selves and brilliance than we do.
Thatās why coaching is SUCH a powerful tool! Having a coach in your life means someone sees YOU, in your perfect wholeness, creativity, potential and passion. As you see me
Thank you for the generous, beautiful, touching and hugely heart expanding acknowledgement!
Like I said over at Charlie Gilkeyās Entrepreneurial Success requires Stamina post:
āHells yeah! Starting my own business has taught me one very important thing about people ā no matter who you are, how big, how successful, how rich, how productive, essentially, at the bottom of it all, you are the same as me, with the same human fears, worries, needs, wants and desires.
Youāve just been at this game of entrepreneurship longer & figured out how to ride the waves better. And if you can do it, so can I. And I will. As long as I keep listening to my intuition and moving forward, one day at a time.
Pretty cool huh.ā
And by you, I mean the Chris Broganās & Seth Godinās of the world who are living examples of passion, perseverance and persistance. Rock on!
ps: You know what was really empowering for me about my site outage? 5% of the time I was mad as a volcano spilling its guts. AND 95% of the time I was relaxed and easeful about it, thinking that if everything was really gone, Iād just start over again, bummer but not such a big deal.
Seeing THAT level of trust in myself and in what Iām creating showed me just how far into 2011 I already am
Thanks for holding the intention for me!
Dear Tia, what an amazing list ā you focused on what you no longer need and you opened yourself up so much. I love the transparency, the sweet self-admonishment combined with this great determination going forth. I am very very proud of how you are dealing with the website frustrations and I wish you the very very best in 2011 ā I think the Dave/Naomi product is going to be a killer and I *know* you are on the right track, you are all set for a huge breakawayā¦.the plan is solid and your momentum is here. Happy New Year to you (a few days early)!
I love it when you drop by Farnoosh! Thank you, this has been QUITE the year and itās so great that things are finally coming together like pieces of a jigsaw puzzle that are suddenly starting to look a lot like fireworks and swirling seas and great mountains with amazing views!
Looking forward to connecting more with you in the next few months as we both blaze our trails of creativity, passion, fun and success! Big hugs girlfriend, and Merry Christmas & a Happy New Year ahead xo
I am so looking forward to the very same, Tiaā¦.Merry Christmas back at you. Stay warm and letās talk more in January!!!
TIA!!! WOWā¦ what a great list! I just read it w/ a big smile on my face and shaking my head thinking āhow did she know thatās everything I want to get rid of too?āā¦ I mean everything!
You have a coool website! I dropped over here from the new GVU gal (Iread her blog about winning the trip to Oz) and saw your name and clicked overā¦ GREAT site! Good buzz!
All the best to you!
Happy new Year!
Julie
Julie! Yay, thank you and welcome to my online home after GVU! Weāre hanging out at the coolest LOA place on the Interwebs, of COURSE we were bound to have much in common
Love that you dropped by, woohoo! So what are you going to allow as a result of letting all that stuff go? Donāt forget to put some focus there ay. Happy New Year!
I am letting go of many of the same things you are. Negative self talk. I am positive and excited about what the future holds! Low energy. I too find myself tired a lot (probably because I donāt get enough sleep)! But when I am up, I am UP from now onā¦ full of energy, alert and ready for whatever comes (and to MAKE things happen)!
Angela, Iām trying Steve Pavlinaās way ā since Iām an insomniac, Iām starting to set my alarm to wake up at the same time every day no matter what time I sleep. Hoping that with time my body will naturally fall into that rhythm. I hear that to get proper rest, sleep for 7.5 hours, not 8. Or multiples of 1.5. Let me know how it goes and if youāre facing any challenges! Cheers!
Hi Tia,
I am reading this post in 2014, it is never late to bring in āchangeā in life and let go off things that just hold you back and stop your growth.At this point in time i am already clearing up old baggage that has piled up over the years!!! a new beginning has been made and I can feel the positive changes around me. thank you !!!